True freedom comes when you know you have no one to answer to for all the decisions you make in your life.
Seeking approval. It's a perverse way to feel good about ourselves - one we have been conditioned to strive for in some way or the other since the time of our birth. People gain others' approval by doing something good for them and in doing so, feel happy about having helped someone feel good too. Normally, this is a great behavior to lead your life, that is, of course, if one hasn't fallen into the trap of an approval-seeking cycle which can easily get addictive and toxic very quickly. In this article, we will take a look at a few reasons why you should think twice before conforming to what others expect of you.
While it is true that you need people in your life to be happy, relying on them to give your dose of happiness is bound to go off the rails pretty quickly. You are the architect of your life, so it's always better to indulge in things that make you happy, rather than depend on others' opinions. Once you do this, you'll slowly come to feel a sense of fulfillment in your life.
This is something you may already know all too well. No matter what you do or how hard you try, there are always people who rain on your parade for even the silliest of reasons. Not everybody will agree with your plans or ideas, and the more you try to please them, the more you'll damage your own self. So, accept that you can't keep everyone happy, even if you have their best interests at heart, and move on with your life.
The advantage of being a crowd-pleaser or a yes-man is that you will be forced to go out on a limb every time and try something new for yourself. Although this could get tough in the initial stages, you'll slowly find your foot and come to realize just who you really are. So, never hesitate to call a spade a spade and stop worrying about what people would think when you speak your mind. Then you'll unlock brand new versions of yourself you never thought existed.
When all you know is putting other's approval ahead of your own, you will be filled with crippling fear when there comes a time where you really want to do something but are worried about antagonizing those in your lives. Basically, approval-seeking puts you under the whims and fancies of others and never truly allows you to fulfill your true potential.
At the end of the day when all is said and done, you are the one in control of your life. But, when you conform to getting other people to like your decisions, you risk putting your life in their hands. Imagine you've just received a solid career opportunity from overseas, one that excites you greatly, but since you don't know how your friends or family would react, you let go of the opportunity only to regret it eventually.
Time and energy are the two most important things in a person's life. When you have both, absolutely nothing can stop you from potentially achieving whatever it is you want to do in life. However, when you're behind others to make you feel whole, you waste away a whole lot of effort and end up with nothing to show for it.
True freedom comes when you know you have no one to answer for all the decisions you make in your life. Whether you believe it or not, you have the absolute ability to make a life-changing decision all by yourself and live through with it. And, even if you falter on the way, you will have learned a valuable lesson that will only make you all the wiser in life.