Rachel Butcher penned a heartfelt post to address the issue after one particular "hard day" when she went shopping with her son and got looks of disdain from "no less than 5 Karens"
Rachel Butcher is a mother who's often been mom-shamed. People are quick to judge her harshly for using a backpack leash on her adopted son, unaware of her difficult journey to motherhood. She took to Facebook to explain why she does so, and called out all "Karens and Susans of the world," after a particularly hard day when she went to Target to shop. As she penned her heartfelt post, she began by saying that she was "crying and clouded in shame and embarrassment. I know I shouldn’t feel this way but as I said, today was hard."
She said, "Our family and friends know our son is adopted, they also know he was born drug-addicted. He has more energy and speed than your average 21 month old. Aside from his already rough beginning of drug exposure, we know little to nothing about his bio family and their genetics. So he could be more hyper just from experiences that I don’t know of."
Butcher acknowledged that she too was once a Karen as she judged parents for using leashes on their children while on a trip to Disneyland. Butcher wrote, "10 years ago, walking around Disney World, I laughed and cringed at the sight of children on leashes 'How can they not control their child?, I’ll never let my child behave that way' Yes, I was 'Karen' then, but, lets be real, every parent has said that line once or twice BEFORE they had children and ate crow years later."
She continued, "My child runs faster than me. Due to scar tissue from my hysterectomy, I do have trouble running sometimes to keep up with him. Let it also be known, I religiously ran races and ran everyday before my surgery. So it’s not a lack of laziness. My child also hates to be confined, whether it’s a car seat, high chair, stroller or shocker, a shopping cart. I use Shipt more often than I should because it is incredibly hard to go out with him alone sometimes. But, guess what, life doesn’t always work that way and we have to go out and get things done. I have come home crying because I have left stores before finishing shopping because he is having a meltdown, I also got the snide comments and nasty looks then too."
But on a trip to Target one day, her son was on his best behavior. This particular day turned out to be worse than she could've anticipated. She added, "But today, today was worse. We went to Target and we wore his backpack and he did AMAZING. He was HAPPY, LAUGHING, SMILING, and yes, running, but he was close to me. The looks and side eye I got from no less than 5 “Karen’s” made me grab my two items and leave. I don’t know why women feel the need to judge and mom shame so often. What works for your child doesn’t necessarily work for mine. I’m glad your little Lucy is perfect and never has meltdowns."
Butcher shared further that her son hadn't started speaking yet and was attending occupational and speech therapy where he's "THRIVING. He is such a happy, beautiful little boy with A LOT of energy." She also clarified that this post was not one based on sympathy or pit, "but more of a public service announcement to kids with leashes. My son does not have a disability, he is a runner. My neighbors know he is a runner, so much so that they chase after him too." Butcher concluded her moving post by saying, "It takes a village to raise a kid and my village rocks."