The man said his family had always been obsessed with the fact that they were twins.
Some parents enjoy raising their identical twins the exact same way, including dressing them alike and even encouraging them to share friends. But not all pairs of siblings enjoy this and many often want to develop their own sense of individuality and independence. One such twin shared his story on Reddit which may seem rather extreme in terms of separating his identity (and more!) from his twin. The post, which has since been deleted, was shared by Percolately where the Original Poster (OP), who goes by CocaColaBottleRocket on the site, asked, "AITA, for getting plastic surgery so I don’t look like my twin?”
If an identical twin gets plastic surgery is that insulting to the other twin?— Unstoppable 🌊 (@Unst0ppableUK) July 17, 2020
Taking to the AITA subreddit, he explained, as per the outlet: I’m an identical twin (24) and my entire family is obsessed with that. We were always discouraged from dressing differently acting differently or having different interests. There were long speeches about the bond between twins even though we have nothing in common and pretty much hate each other. He has become their Golden child even though he is the worst person I have ever met in my entire life. He has blamed me for crimes that he has committed including assaulting my female friend. The reason I’m wondering is because everybody flipped out when they saw the results. Telling me that I look like a different person and how could I do this to him. I was lectured that I should try to be more like him and this is just an insult to the family. On a side note we were both pretty ugly,lol so am I the TA?
There seems to be a lot to unpack here but most Reddit users seemed to agree that as shocking as the situation is, OP didn’t do anything wrong and he has every right to do what he feels like. While pointing out that he wasn't wrong, user AvelanaStitches wrote that the twin who wanted to change his physical appearance should nevertheless think before making such a drastic decision: NTA. I would definitely consider therapy or guidance to make sure you’re mentally and emotionally prepared for plastic surgery, though. I understand you’re hurt and annoyed and honestly probably (rightly) bitter, but don’t do anything absolutely life changing in all ways unless you’re 200% sure. I hope you have a good support system outside of your family.
However, most people pointed out that OP seemed to have already gotten surgery with one Reddit user, PhoenyxRayne sharing: NTA. Congrats on a successful surgery. Now you need to go NC (no contact) with your entire family and life your best life. Another user, Music_WithRocks_In added: If they did any research on twins before raising some they should know it is super, super common for twins in their teens and early twenties to look for ways to physically look different from their twin. It would be much more unusual for twins to be super invested in looking the same around that time.
What do you'll think?