He called his father who died at 81, an “alcoholic” whose "hobbies included abusing his first wife and children."
Family needn't be everything for everyone. Sometimes there are people in your family who disrespect you and it's okay to cut them out of your life if that gives you peace. One man found healing after writing an obit for his father who died at the age of 81 years old. Pfaff’s son Larry Pfaff Jr from Florida did not hold back in the obituary, published in The Florida Times-Union where he described his father, as “narcissistic” and an “abusive alcoholic” whose death proves that “evil does eventually die.” The senior Pfaff died on June 27 in New York after "living a long life, much longer than he deserved," according to the obituary.
File this under “you should’ve been a better parent/human if you didn’t want your incredibly talented writer child to be honest about you.” I wonder if anyone’s ever gotten a book deal from an obituary?— 📚 🔪💃 🩸 (@emiliestrongemi) July 7, 2022
Larry Pfaff Jr. didn’t pull any punches when he wrote, "[Pfaff] is survived by his three children, no four. Oops, five children. Well as of 2022 we believe there is one more that we know about, but there could be more. His love was abundant when it came to himself, but for his children it was limited.
From a young age, he was a ladies’ man and an abusive alcoholic, solidifying his commitment to both with the path of destruction he left behind, damaging his adult children, and leaving them broken." He also said his abusive father was "incapable of love" for anyone other than himself.
The 81-year-old left behind a "path of destruction … damaging his adult children and leaving them broken," his son wrote. "His love was abundant when it came to himself, but for his children it was limited." The 58-year-old also mentioned that his father’s “hobbies” included “abusing his first wife,” and that he “possesses no redeeming qualities for his children, including the ones he knew, and the ‘ones he knew about.’” He concluded the obit, saying, "It will be challenging to miss Lawrence, Sr. because he was narcissistic. He was incapable of love. Lawrence, Sr.'s passing proves that evil does eventually die, and it marks a time of healing, which will allow his children to get the closure they deserve. Lawrence, Sr. can be remembered for being a father to many, and a dad to none."
Good for him. Not everyone is a great person and they don't suddenly become one because they died.— Leigh Micheline True (@leighmtrue) July 6, 2022
Pfaff Jr. told First Coast News that he started writing the obit a year prior when his father was still alive, as “a way for me to really cleanse myself and let that part of my life go.” "He's had 30 years since we've stopped talking to profess his truth," he said. "And so now it's my turn to profess my truth." Pfaff Jr. told the outlet that many people have reached out to thank him for being honest and sharing his truth. “I got a call from somebody in St. Augustine that found me and wanted to thank me for posting that because, you know, they had a similar life, and they wanted to be able to do something similar to help heal,” he said. “They just thanked me for, you know, the honesty.” Gannett, the company that owns the Times-Union isn't too happy, however. A company spokesperson told that “we regrettably published an obituary that did not adhere to our guidelines and we are looking into the matter further. We regret any distress this may have caused.”
Read the full obit here.