Reddit users shared their thoughts about whether the dad was being unreasonable.
Raising your kids is no easy feat but showing favoritism amongst your children can cause problems, right? Shouldn't they all be treated the same way? Reddit user, DisneyTripGrandma took to Reddit to share her story of how her son wouldn't take his daughter on his family trip to Disneyland. But he did take his sons! She explained: I got pregnant with my son Julius (28) about a month after my 18th birthday. I tried to do my best for him and he got into a good engineering school but at 19, he got his then girlfriend Iza pregnant and they had Annabella together. I've been the one who has mostly raised her (Iza got deported but they spend July together and FT every night). Julius got married to his girlfriend Katja after graduation and they have two wonderful boys together. Annabella lives with me and not with them.
The grandmother pointed out that her son doesn't spend much time with the young girl. In fact, "He doesn't even call to say goodnight. But she loves him so much. It's like once a month, he'll show up with a box full of toys, spend a day with her and then go back to his family. It hurts her so much that he doesn't spend time with her because he's her hero. I'm just grandma. And no, he doesn't act this way because of his wife. Katja would love to have Annabella move in with them, she once brought up the idea and she went on about all the things they could do together. She would love to be her stepmom, calls her princess, sweetie and so many nice nicknames."
It seems the young girl's father wants her to stay with her grandmother instead. Although the child is yearning for her father's affection, it seems he does not want to spend time with her. The distraught grandmother said that "a few days ago, Julius told me that he and Katja were planning a trip to Disneyland in August. I told him that Annabella would be so excited and he should tell her on her birthday and he just blankly told me she's not coming and the trip is for his boys. I made it clear to him that he needed to bring her on the trip and he just called me an asshole - which he's never done before - for trying to control him. I admit that I was a bit controlling in my reaction but I don't think I went that far."
Most Reddit users responded by saying that the OP was NOT the A**hole and was surprised by the man's behavior. User tulipbunnys commented: It’s wonderful that OP is selflessly providing for Annabella but he needs to step up as her father and actually contribute. NTA. Plantsandanger advised: Time to start involving the wife. It may be meddling, but in this case I think the kid deserves a chance in case the meddling works. Invite her over for a tea party or try to bring the kids together for a play date at the park, you, the girl, your D[aughter] I[n] L[aw], and her sons. Your son/their dad’s presence is not required since he seems unwilling. Start blending the family so this girl has someone besides you in her life (you seem to be doing great, no dig at you) and someone besides her deadbeat dad to idolize. I wonder if your son is sexist and doesn’t want a daughter or if there’s some other equally bull reason he’s decided to abandon her. Why did you become the girls legal guardian? NTA. Material_Cellist4133 added: She raised a deadbeat. I feel so bad for the daughter. I hope OP takes her son to court for money to raise the daughter
Do you'll agree?