While he may have been excited to have his baby girl at his wedding, the woman was robbing him of the chance to share this joy with his daughter.
The day of one's wedding is one of, if not the most, special day of their lives. Exchanging your vows of lifelong matrimony in presence of all your loved ones is nothing short of heaven on earth. However, these days, there are several complications to marriages that may not have existed a few centuries ago. For one thing, divorces and second (or third, fourth, etc) marriages are fairly common and there is no dogma attached to it. So in cases where one of the partners has a child from a previous wedding, it may cause some level of emotional instability in the other one.
One fiance' though, didn't want the child of her husband-to-be attending their wedding. She decided to post her thoughts on Facebook and went on to give details about why she absolutely did not want the three-year-old child there, even though it was an extremely special and important day for the child's father. "How do I tell my fiance [sic] I don't want his daughter at our wedding? I put 'no kids' on the invites so I thought he'd get the point, but he keeps mentioning her being there??" she wrote, according to NZ Herald. The woman went on to add why she particularly didn't want the little girl at her wedding, "Edit cause people keep asking me the same dumb a** questions. She's three. I am marrying him, not his crotch goblin. That's his mistake, not mine."
While it is perfectly within her right to want, or not want, to raise kids in her life, it must have been brutal for the husband to tell his daughter that she will not be attending the wedding. The woman's reaction is reflective of how her attitude might be when she finally becomes the little girl's stepmother. The woman was looking at her fiance' as purely her husband-to-be, forgetting that he is also a father. While he may have been excited to have his baby girl at his wedding, the woman was robbing him of the chance to share his wedding joy with his daughter. She also added, "I don't want her there because she's needy asf and makes everything about her AND I said no f***ing kids!"
Getting married to someone also means you are accepting their past into your life. In this particular case, the child was obviously a huge part of the husband-to-be's world and it would have meant everything that the woman accepted her as a loving daughter. One would hope that your fiancé would make an effort to love the people who are important to you. But throwing a fit because a three-year-old is attending her father's wedding was seen as a bit too much by the people who commented on the woman's post. Most of the people wondered how she would ever warm up to being a stepmother to the young girl when she rejects her very presence on the most important day of their relationship.
"Why marry someone with kids if you don't like kids?" they said. "There are plenty of single, childless people out there. We don't all have children," said one comment. And another said, "Lady, when you marry a man, you marry his family. The fact that you refer to his daughter as a 'crotch goblin' is a major red flag and he needs to dump your sorry a**." Some others pointed out that she already knew that her husband-to-be has a child, and still consented to the wedding knowing fully well that he would obviously want his daughter to be a part of everything they do. "He's still going to raise and love his daughter so either you grow up and be a stepmother as that's what comes with the marriage or break it off if you can't commit. Also one last thing, she's three you dumba**, she's still practically a toddler (almost child)." The comments suggested that the young girl might not have the most ideal circumstance to grow up in if the two of them get married.