98-Year-Old Betty White Prefers To Date Older Men: 'A Cougar I Am Not'

98-Year-Old Betty White Prefers To Date Older Men: 'A Cougar I Am Not'

In her book 'If You Ask Me', the 'Golden Girls' actress talks about the men she's had and explains how she is when it comes to her romantic partners.

That Betty White is a national treasure is a rarely debated fact. The 98-year-old is a grandma all of us would love to have because she hands down beats every other human person for being the coolest woman on earth. While she's certainly very open-minded and progressive for the generation she's from, there simply are certain lines she does not want to cross, particularly when it comes to her relationships. Case in point—she doesn't want to be known as a cougar. In her book If You Ask Me, the Golden Girls actress talks about the men she's been in relationships with and explains her preference when it comes to her romantic partners.

BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JUNE 16: Actress Betty White speaks onstage during The 40th Annual Daytime Emmy Awards at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on June 16, 2013 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)


White says she doesn't think she has much of a chance with younger men and that when she meets someone interesting but happens to find out he's younger than her, she'd rather not move forward with the relationship. "Even at this age, once in a while I meet a man who seems a trifle more interesting than usual," she wrote. "Nothing untoward—just someone who might be fun to know a little better. I’ve even thought (to myself) that it might be nice if he asked me to lunch or dinner, perhaps. Then reality kicks in and it cracks me up. This guy is probably a much younger man—maybe only 80—and not about to even look my way."

SAN DIEGO, CA - JULY 24: Actress Betty White speaks onstage at TV Land's Legends Of TV Land Panel during the 2014 Comic Con International Convention at Hilton Bayfront on July 24, 2014 in San Diego, California. (Photo by Jerod Harris/Getty Images for TV Land)


Although White understands that it's acceptable for women to date younger men, when it comes to herself she would rather not. Instead, she says she prefers older men. "At this moment in time, it seems somewhat current and choice for women to pair up with younger men. These guys are called ‘cougars.’ Well, animal lover that I am, a cougar I am not. All my life, even as a kid, I have preferred men older than I am. Unfortunately, today I don’t think there is anyone older than I am!" As old as she is, White is no longer interested or concerned about being asked on a date. And she says she'd rather not put the focus on her dating life. However, she mentions stories of her late husband, Allen Ludden, and recalls how much of a great relationship she had with him. She narrates the story with a cute little anecdote from the sets of her show Hot in Cleveland.

STUDIO CITY, CA - JANUARY 16: (L-R) Actresses Valerie Bertinelli, Wendie Malick, Betty White and Jane Leeves pose at the Betty White celebratation of her 93rd birthday on the set of "Hot in Cleveland" held at CBS Studios - Radford on January 16, 2015 in Studio City, California. (Photo by Mark Davis/Getty Images for TV Land)


Apparently, her co-stars would often chat her up and ask her about Ludden and she never quite understood why. That's when she decided to ask them and Here's what she heard back: "The answer was simple: 'We love the look you get on your face when you talk about him." The book, released in 2011, was a New York Times bestseller that offered a candid tale of the on-screen and off-screen life as a comedian. Google Books even said the book is just like her: "Filled with photos, If You Ask Me is funny, sweet, and straight to the point—just like Betty," the aggregator database wrote.


Talking about relationships again in a 2016 interview with Today’s Al Roker, White shared the secret to a good relationship, and the first aspect that keeps a courtship going good, according to her, is kindness."You don’t say the hurtful thing, even if you’re irritated or upset, because that sticks," White says. "That sticks around, or just chips off a little of the other guy’s self-esteem." Despite being nearly a century old, White feels as young as ever. When asked about her secret to youth, she said it's the work she does with animals that keep her going. "I think everybody should have or cultivate a passion. Don’t be afraid to really get hooked on something, because that will refurbish your energy, [and] it will refurbish your interest."

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