Groom Turned Away From Buying A Wedding Suit, He Was Told He Was Too Big

Samuel Hatton of Texas was reduced to tears after the incident. "I am reminded every day that I live in a world that isn’t made for me," he wrote.

A groom-to-be from Texas was looking for the perfect wedding suit for his big day but was heartbroken to discover that the one he wanted wasn't available because of his size. Fatphobia is still quite common and it's not just a women's issue. People across genders and sexual orientations suffer from a lack of awareness and resources when it comes to body size. Why is it hard for retail to be inclusive of all kinds of body shapes and types? Samuel Hatton of Texas is just one of the many people who have to deal with such traumatizing incidents.

In a moving post on Facebook, Hatton described how excited he was to get married to his soon-to-be-husband, Jake. What started as a quest to buy a wedding suit quickly turned into an emotional breakdown. Hatton mentioned how he "read fashion blogs by overweight men who endorsed Indochino. I read and reread Indochino's site and several times entered in my measurements and got very excited. I was going to get to share the same unfettered experience with my partner. I wouldn't have to make any concessions or pretend like I was having just as much fun watching, I was going to get to participate! I'm getting married and I was getting to do a standard thing the standard person way. I was excited!"

The couple had to drive three hours before reaching their destination: an Indochino store in Dallas. An associate began by taking measurements for his partner Jake and later turned to Hatton who wrote: I want to emphasize how kind this person was. She obviously wanted to make me feel as human as possible. I can’t say how much I appreciate that. Then she measured me. Shoulders, broad, good. Neck, good. Arms, good. Wast. “Sir, I’m so sorry but you’re just a few inches out of our standard measurements. My system won’t allow me to fit you.” Knowing it was coming didn’t really prepare me. Neither did the very kind theater for what everyone knew was about to happen. “She was incredibly apologetic.” I’ve learned to appreciate kindness in these situations. But I’ve also learned not to speak out for myself out of politeness. I’m trying to break that habit. Sorrowful, holding back tears, I said, “It doesn’t say anywhere on your site that I wouldn’t fit. You have to understand how embarrassing and hurtful this is.” I made sure to indicate that my complaint wasn’t with her, but her employer’s system.

The encounter left Hatton devastated. He needed time to "mourn his dignity" and spent 20 minutes not crying but "wailing", he said. While the good news is that Hatton managed to get a tailor-made suit for his big day, he noted that: "It cost about three times what we paid for my partner’s. Don’t get me wrong, it is worth every penny. It’s a completely custom suit made by a small business owner. The point is, that day, there wasn’t just an emotional premium for being fat, there was a $1000 fee." He concluded the post, writing: I am reminded every day that I live in a world that isn’t made for me. When I was a little younger, seeking out queer relationships drew that reality to an even finer point. Fat people are people. We aren’t a joke. We aren’t clowns. And yes, we’ve tried fucking keto.

Hatton's post has since gone viral and resonated with a lot of people who posted their thoughts in the comments section. Crystal Howard Yandell wrote: Thank you for this post. Thank you for showing the HUMAN behind the post. I wish you and your partner the most blessed life together and all the happiness in the world. Adam Beers added: Thank you for having the courage to share your experience with the world! Your vulnerability and honesty is truly incredible and I value that in a human. I know that this story will help someone else not feel alone and isolated from the world.