Loving is serving as the gestational surrogate for her 29-year-old daughter.
One mom is going above and beyond for her 29-year-old daughter. Breanna Lockwood unfortunately found out from her doctors that she would be unable to have a successful pregnancy. That's when her 51-year-old mom decided to step in to help. The newborn will be the biological child of Lockwood and her husband, Aaron, but she is being carried in pregnancy by Lockwood's mom Loving.
"I feel like my mom is the closest place to home she can be rather than my own body," Lockwood, 29, of Illinois, told Good Morning America. "My mom wants to be a grandma just as much as I want to be a mom so she's doing everything she can."
Lockwood and Aaron tied the knot in 2016 and began trying for a baby almost immediately. They tried for a year after which they saw a fertility specialist. The process was a struggle: with miscarriages, multiple rounds of in vitro fertilization, and multiple surgeries. Soon the doctors suggested that the couple opt for surrogacy. "Struggling with infertility was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through," said Lockwood. "When you have a plan for your life and then something like infertility gets in the way, I felt like I couldn't see what I pictured anymore, that it could be taken away from me."
What seemed more difficult with surrogacy was the expenses. The cost of a surrogate through an agency can be more than $100,000. So, Lockwood's doctor, Brian Kaplan, of Fertility Centers of Illinois, suggested that finding a family member or friend to act as her surrogate.
Loving suggested that she could be the gestational surrogate. "I started to talk to her about it. She was not on board and thought I was crazy, but I just kept pursuing it," Loving shared with the outlet. "I've run 19 marathons and done many triathlons. I felt like health-wise I could do it and I had really easy pregnancies with my two kids."
It took a while for Lockwood to get on board with the idea. The two went to see Dr. Kaplan. "My mom came with me as my support person and she brought up that she wanted to carry," Lockwood explained. "When he met her I could tell that he was really starting to think about it as a possibility, but he didn't tell us yes right away. There were a lot of hoops we had to jump through to make it possible."
After being seen by specialists and undergoing tests, Kaplan told the outlet that Loving "got past all of us with flying colors". "I think it's very important for me as a physician and for this field for people to know this is not routine and not everybody can use their mom," he noted. "It has to be a unique situation."
In February, Kaplan performed the embryo transfer and by March, he confirmed that the 51-year-old was pregnant with her daughter's baby - her granddaughter."Even when we got the positive pregnancy test result we couldn't jump for joy yet because we'd had so many losses and so much trauma," Lockwood said. "Just now, halfway through the pregnancy, we're starting to get excited and shop and plan."
The family is counting down the days that they can welcome their little baby girl. Loving is due on Nov. 12. Lockwood told GMA she and Aaron can't wait to tell her that she was "wanted so much that we did everything we could to bring you into the world."
Loving added, "We're going to be really open with her at a really young age and tell her when we feel like she can understand," Loving said. "And just tell her the truth."
Dr. Kaplan added that this was the first mother-daughter surrogate birth he's handled. "After 29 years, I was taught a lesson," he said. "I was taught about family strength. You can see the intensity of their family and their unity and love. It's really humbling as a physician."
What an amazing gift to give not only your daughter but your grandchild! ❤️— Bobbi Freeman (@BobbiFreeman16) June 25, 2020